tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3840808032760740145.post8270071731652043694..comments2016-08-04T10:26:12.561-04:00Comments on Foster (and more!) Mom-ing: PettyGhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10780908199604484569noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3840808032760740145.post-1515470652545233422012-11-01T13:22:48.488-04:002012-11-01T13:22:48.488-04:00I'm sorry to hear I came off as "smug&quo...I'm sorry to hear I came off as "smug".<br /><br />I wrote this post in an attempt to vent off some feelings that I knew were not rational. I was feeling frustrated by the implication that I couldn't do the child's hair "right", even though I know that this isn't about me at all. I expect that the bioparent isn't thinking of me at that moment -- which is asGhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10780908199604484569noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3840808032760740145.post-58534351355461223722012-10-31T08:48:51.320-04:002012-10-31T08:48:51.320-04:00None of the cases I've fostered in either of t...None of the cases I've fostered in either of the states I've fostered in (IA & TX) have allowed bio parents or foster parents to pick the visit location. So, in the cases I've had experience with, it is the State determining where these take place.<br />Is it a good idea for the State to ask a bio parent to purchase fast food for their kids as many as 2-3 times a week? Is that Cherub Mammahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07220602185537450139noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3840808032760740145.post-88861456539368064802012-10-30T23:51:24.910-04:002012-10-30T23:51:24.910-04:00Yes, I am. I am also a bio mom to nine.
I think a...Yes, I am. I am also a bio mom to nine.<br /><br />I think a restaurant is a much better meeting place than a office. I'm not sure what state you are in but the parents don't always have the luxury of picking out the ideal place to meet. Weather can also play a large part (I'm in AZ where it's very warm). I've taken my clients (who are children) to McDonalds so they can shellyx6https://www.blogger.com/profile/17470273520176039439noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3840808032760740145.post-66185874171037352702012-10-30T20:28:06.016-04:002012-10-30T20:28:06.016-04:00@shelly -
I have been to McDonalds play lands all ...@shelly -<br />I have been to McDonalds play lands all over the country. I've got no problem taking my kids to fast food restaurants really. It's crappy food. But it's fast and it makes them smile. It helps me when I need it.<br /><br />So, to answer your assumption about me, you are incredibly wrong.<br /><br />My issue with visits taking place in a restaurant like that is much Cherub Mammahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07220602185537450139noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3840808032760740145.post-89778050949535003042012-10-30T20:09:48.106-04:002012-10-30T20:09:48.106-04:00I hear an air of smugness in this comment..
As fo...I hear an air of smugness in this comment.. <br />As for McDonalds as a visit location -- ugh! My Pumpkin had her visits there when she first came in to Care. What a message to send to parents who obviously don't know how to care for children properly (or they wouldn't be in foster care to begin with)??!!<br /><br />Seriously?<br /><br />I'm guessing every parent who takes their childshellyx6https://www.blogger.com/profile/17470273520176039439noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3840808032760740145.post-10232666712354273202012-10-30T20:04:10.892-04:002012-10-30T20:04:10.892-04:00I dont see anything wrong with the birth mother re...I dont see anything wrong with the birth mother redoing her own child's hair. She is doing something motherly. Who can blame her for that? I'm wondering why this bothers you. I would redo my daughters hair too if she wasn't living with me.shellyx6https://www.blogger.com/profile/17470273520176039439noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3840808032760740145.post-65179333108887216532012-10-11T17:06:37.075-04:002012-10-11T17:06:37.075-04:00These are the little things that drive me NUTS as ...These are the little things that drive me NUTS as a foster parent. I'm in the same camp as you.<br /><br />Here's my petty gripe for the afternoon. At my cherubs' visit yesterday their homeless, drug-addicted mom gave them each a dollar bill and some quarters. The children are 3 & 5 and DO NOT understand money. They just want to carry it around and bicker over it. And since you Cherub Mammahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07220602185537450139noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3840808032760740145.post-5178773993218306362012-10-11T16:57:04.299-04:002012-10-11T16:57:04.299-04:00Not a thing wrong with it.
I meant to refer to my...Not a thing wrong with it.<br /><br />I meant to refer to myself in the title as the one being "petty." It really doesn't matter and it shouldn't bother me, and yet . . . <br /><br />They have their visits at McDonald's with an indoor playplace....Ghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10780908199604484569noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3840808032760740145.post-89029203922069564082012-10-11T16:43:41.547-04:002012-10-11T16:43:41.547-04:00Is it "wrong"? Or is it something they d...Is it "wrong"? Or is it something they do during a visit simply to pass the time.<br />I've watched visits. Most of them seem rather boring. The room is cramped. There's little to do unless I packed toys for the kids. Most of the parents don't know how to "play" with their kids anyway.<br />I suppose the touching aspect of "doing hair" might be nice as Cherub Mammahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07220602185537450139noreply@blogger.com